In our last post, we began to talk about spiritual relationships with twin flames, or twin sparks. This time, we continue with other types of bond, which also – almost – follows a sequence until you find your twin soul.
Just a warning! The path that will lead you to your twin flame is never an easy one, and you can be sure that it will be quite a bumpy ride, while you clear old scores, healing the old scars, and making peace with yourself along the way.
Most couples are trapped in unhealthy marriages or relationships today. The men and women who cheat their partners are very common in every culture. And some, who have a higher level of spiritual awareness, can see that other factors are at play here. Don’t get me wrong (and God help me, because it’s a difficult topic to convey without being misunderstood), I’m not against the marriages, and I fully support the idea of monogamy, because it’s the healthiest for one’s soul. But, as the old saying goes, “a limb with gangrene should be cut off to save the body.”
A while back, I watched a TV interview Modern Islamic Wisdom Expert Yasar Nuri Ozturk (add link) was a guest, which a young woman connected to the show through telephone asked him: “I have a boyfriend, who beats me all the time. What do you suggest me to do?” Ozturk was so furious for such an idiotic question that he scolded the audience, saying “What are you planning? To marry him? He’s abusing you with beatings all the time, you’re not even married, you don’t even have children, you have nothing serious that binds you to him, and you still ask this? Are you too stupid to realize you should ditch him?”
Well, fair enough. I also asked the same question to my friends who seemed to complain about their partners without marriage all the time. “If this relationship is so sick in its nature, why don’t you ditch him or her, but thinking of a marriage instead?” We can see the same problems in marriages, too, and it doesn’t have to be excessive as an act of violence, which goes into a completely different category named bullying. But what lacks here is not the mental situation of these people, but the problem about their karma. More often than not, other than tangible reasons, they can’t simply walk away from the relationship, because there is something they have to solve and clear first. And in spiritualism, these partners are called as karmic mates.
The souls, who have unsolved problems or unpaid spiritual debts between them, may come together as partners in a special relationship, and stay together for a while to rebalance the energy. This period may vary from a moment to a lifetime. What we need to understand here is this is not a real deep spiritual and emotionally euphoric relationship as you may have with your soul mate, or twin flame, but one for the settling of old scores to enable the souls to have real relationships with spiritual meanings.
A person may have so many karmic mates (the aim is not to have any, because you can come together with your twin flame only when you are free of old spiritual debts). And good news is that in this age, other than huge karmic debts that cause serious traumas in subconscious mind, or in spiritual energy, the karmas are cleared by the angels. Personally, I don’t believe this is an all around spiritual clearance, because I still witness a lot of karma cleaning in my own life or other people’s lives. However, I’m also well aware that the process gained so much speed now.
I was one of those – let’s say – less luckier ones with a lot to clear, so my ride was quite bumpy, due to what I have done in my past lives mostly. And perhaps one of the reasons why I had this experience of clearance was to help people to understand this equation more effectively, because there is no better teacher than personal experience.
A friend of mine had a girlfriend, whom he shared a very serious relationship for more than five years. Once while in mediation, he found out that she was his mother in one of his past lives, and due to a dream she had, the girlfriend also confirmed the information. From a series of EFT sessions, they found out that the girlfriend was a negligent mother, so she had to help my friend to organize his messed life. On the other hand, he had to forgive her so that she could have a stronger self-esteem. When they completed their missions for each other, they parted their ways, without blaming each other any at all. When the debt was paid, their relationship was simply over.
On the other hand, in the same way, close friends of the same gender or siblings may be soul or karmic mates, too. What matters for them is to help each other for spiritual growth.
Perhaps the best example for this journey may be a dream that a client of mine had right after he divorced his ex-wife. Let’s call him “Roger” here. In his dream, Roger is invited to a large house to check a storage room in basement. There he finds two sets of musical tools, which are used for electric guitars, namely processors. There are five pedals in each set, and the old guy who invites Roger in tells him that he could have one of the sets, and the other set belongs to his twin flame, his other half. But the man also warns that he has to put them in right order to get the perfect sound.
Metaphors here are a perfect way of my client’s subconscious mind to tell him how to understand the meaning of this dream, because he’s a rock guitarist, and he knows exactly what each of these pedals do.
The first one is a Distortion. The second one is a Compressor. The third an Equalizer. Fourth a Noise Gate. And the last one is a Finalizer. The strange part here is, while all these pedals exist in real life, we – my client and I, as rock guitarists – had never heard such one called as “Finalizer.” Moreover, while Roger was going through the period this dream signaled in real life, he wasn’t aware of its meaning; in fact, he had forgotten that dream already.
Let me give some information about these pedals for those who don’t have a clue about musical instruments:
Distortion is a pedal that turns the sound of an electric guitar into what you hear in rock or heavy metal music, like an engine sound, or a tiger’s growling. You plug the cable from guitar into this pedal, and from this pedal you connect to amplifier, unless you use other pedals to support and refine the sound more.
Compressor, as can be guessed from its name, compresses the sound, making it clearer to hear, and easier to control.
Equalizer pedal is mostly 6 or 8 channels – the one in my friend’s dream was with 6 channels, according what he told me – and works as a hi-fi equalizer, with the main aim of refining the tone.
The problem is that when you plug so many pedals, or processors, between the guitar and the amplifier, you hear a strong noise at the background. Therefore, we plug a Noise Gate between the Equalizer and the amplifier to clear that deep noise.
What we didn’t understand was what Finalizer stood for in this dream? However, the old man had said if Roger could put them in right order, he would get the Perfect Sound.
Well, two years later, this client and I realized what this dream was trying to tell us. It was all about Roger’s karmic debts, and finding peace with himself , symbolizing each relationship partner he had after his divorce. Not all of them were Roger’s girlfriends, or lovers, but they all made an emotional impact on him.
The first one was the cause of Roger’s divorce. She wasn’t his girlfriend, but due to a misunderstanding about this lady, the end of Roger’s marriage had begun. In Roger’s part, he took the crisis as a signal to end a marriage that didn’t work for years then. So, this first friend was the Distortion. In another word, it distorted the harmony, or stupor in Roger’s life.
The second one was his female agent, whom he worked almost a year. Through his career, and his works, she pushed and rocked him hard emotionally. So that when their partnership was over, Roger was a different person. Let’s say, he was Compressed.
While we were working on this dream with Roger, he said the Equalizer symbolized the six girlfriends he had during a very short period, one after another, very quickly. They were also six girls, same number with the channels on the pedal, and Roger said their relationships mostly ended before beginning, because he was coming to realize what he should expect from and what he could give to a relationship, so he or the girl would end it quickly when it was clear where they were heading.
Thus, at the ninth girlfriend, he had reached to the Noise Gate, whom he was with a few months. Then this girl had left him abruptly, with seemingly no logical explanations. Roger thought he was in love with this girl so deeply that even his entire existence was shaken to the bones. He was even ready to give up life. He told me that he was never so low in his life, like he was at that point. He was questioning his entire set of values, principles, beliefs, and priorities. In the end, he came to a conclusion that he had to stick to his career, and accept everything he was given with a full and honest gratitude. He had realized that none of these women were the right one for him, and he had no idea if he could find her or not. But he was happy with his life now, without realizing that the Finalizer was himself.
And just guess what happened then? Just one month later of this finalizing point, he met the right woman out of blue. Strangely, as it was told in the dream, this woman had a similar experience with men who came into his life (remember the other set of pedals?). They are happily married now, and they are trying to solve other sorts of problems that come with a real twin flame reunion. But frankly, in my eye, with all the up and downs, I believe they finally found the Perfect Sound and they go up and down like real melodies!
So, again, I’d like to remind you that while we can all find our twin flames, you need to have a very hard work done first. However, we are all destined for this sooner or later, so if you want it sooner, focus on your own spiritual growth first.
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